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UpDate

Outsmart your heart.
Curate your fate.

UpDate uses honest self-reflection and analytical scoring to help you understand what you're looking for, evaluate your partners, and learn from your own patterns.

Be honest about yourself — and set your standard
Rate yourself truthfully on what you bring to a relationship. Then set your minimum baselines for a partner — dealbreakers, what matters most, what's nice to have. Be realistic, not aspirational.
Your Dating Strategy
Based on your self-profile and standard, UpDate builds you a personalized strategy — who you're really looking for, where to find them, and how to position yourself to attract them.
Rate your dates — and reveal your patterns
Add anyone — current or past. Rate them honestly against your standard and the dating pattern analysis reveals what you keep tolerating, what you keep missing, and where your patterns are.

Takes about 15 minutes to set up.
The more truthful you are, the better it gets.

UpDate

Outsmart your heart.
Curate your fate.

About Me & My Standard.

Who you are and what you'll accept. Everything is measured against this.

Dating Tools.✓ Unlocked

Dating Strategy
Your complete strategy: who to find, where to look, how to attract them.
Dating Profile
A polished bio and prompt responses ready to paste into any app.
Dating Pattern Analysis
Built from your dating history. Identifies the gaps between your standards and who you actually accept, and the patterns that keep showing up.

My Dating History.

Add anyone — someone you're seeing now, someone from the past. Rating them reveals patterns and helps you make better choices going forward.

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Add a person
Current, past, or anyone you've dated
Your Dating Strategy

A personalized strategy built from your profile and standards — who to look for, how to attract them, and what to validate early.

View against which standard?

Choose the standard you want to see this person rated against.

Dating Profile
Which app are you on?

We'll format your bio and prompts to match exactly what each app uses.

Hinge
Prompt-based — no bio
Bumble
Bio + prompts from Bumble's list
Tinder
Short punchy bio — fun, confident, a little flirty
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Match
Longer bio, relationship-focused, 35+
Dating Profile
Dating Pattern Analysis
New standard
Build your standard

Set your floor — dealbreakers, what matters most, what's nice to have. Everything starts at midpoint. Adjust what actually matters to you.

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